往事随风–马先生和他的白人妻子
上世纪90年代初, 我们来到北欧丹麦做医学研究工作. 首次迈出国门, 来到一个完全陌生的国家, 生活的不适可想而知. 但有幸的是, 我们得到华人马先生全家无微不至的关怀和帮助, 使我们很快适应环境。我们和马先生夫妻也成了好朋友,他们全家的善良和热情使我们至今难忘. 今天有空写一写马先生和他白人妻子的故事。
马先生父亲是越南出生,祖籍潮州的华人, 是胡志明市有名的中医师, 在1979年的越南排华事件中, 他们家的财产全部被没收,其父母在无奈中带着十几岁的他和更小的弟弟妹妹冒着随时会葬身大海的危险, 漂流几天几夜后, 终于逃离魔掌,来到了泰国. 随后联合国难民所将他们一家送到丹麦, 开始了他们的新生活. 在学习丹麦语的时候, 他认识了他的妻子, 当时的义工。由于情投意合,他们很快就相恋了。按照世俗的眼光,他们是多么不相配的一对。男的身材矮小,典型东方人面孔, 女的近一米七的身高,是白人美女; 男的一贫如洗,是个难民,女的家庭富有,其父在哥本哈根郊外拥有一大工厂, 按现在的说法女的是典型的白富美。想想这女的得有多大的勇气,他们才能走到一起。丹麦虽然是个非常友善的国家,民风淳朴,但也非常保守,那时极少见白人和其他族通婚的情况。但女的就是喜欢男的,我想应该是喜欢他的勤奋上进及坚韧不拔的毅力。像马先生这样经历苦难的人,除了有积极向上的人生理念,更有坚强的意志。事实证明,女的选择没有错,马先生很快学会了丹麦语,融入了社会,他除了丹麦语,还会英,法,德语,加上以前知道的越南语,中文,一共掌握了六,七种语言。后来马先生很快进入大学学习设计,毕业后被丹麦最大的啤酒公司录用,进入了高薪阶层。有情人终诚眷属,经过几年的爱情长跑, 他们终于走在了一起。
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我们到丹麦的时候,他们已经有了2 个漂亮, 人见人爱的混血儿子(图 1),老大己上幼儿园。老大常抱怨,与小朋友玩游戏,他总是要装坏人,只有他是黑头发,其他都是金发。其实这种异族婚姻结婚容易,维持难,除需要社会的包容,更需要双方的智慧和努力。象马先生这样很传统的华人家庭,女的努力或牺牲要更多。而马太太当时为了融入男方的家庭,真的很用心,除了取个漂亮叫爱兰的中文名字,也不断的学习,适应中国人的生活习惯。我们在丹麦的那段时间,会常常在华侨的聚会上见到他们,尤其是潮州人的聚会,他们常常请我们参加,自己也一定会带着孩子来同乐。马先生父母几次请我们吃饭,女的总会在厨房邦忙,看得出婆媳关系非常融洽. 他们还常常带我们出去玩,女的每次都争着给我们去付钱,完全是中国人的习惯。那时看到他们的恩爱,我觉得世界上有真正的爱情,虽然真正爱情的途径并不平坦,但它可以克服种族及世俗偏见,给人们难以估量的力量。
在丹麦工作两年以后我们来到了美国, 早期跟马先生还有联系(图 2),后来为生活忙碌,搬了几次家,就彻底失联了。往事随风,吹不掉的是人生的沉淀,希望有机会能重访安徒生的故乡,在那童话般的世界里重温童话般的人和事,那也曾是我们梦想开始的地方。
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我的第一辆车和事:
Perfect fit size 13. I normally order 13's. Very comfortable.
- Liberia
Been getting these forever, love the fit, 13 4E. Perfect, comfortable.
- Singapore
I always order these shoes for my hubby. He never wears any other shoes but Nike.
- Singapore
Finally able to order my correct size without getting a size bigger to get the width I need.
- Switzerland
Comfortable, good sole and inner sole. Have worn this make for several years -- hope they keep making them.
- Singapore
Nike still makes a very high quality shoe. It offers excellent support and durability. This my second pair of this modal.
- Liberia
Sneakers fit as advertised; it was in excellent condition; fit was comfortable, sturdy, and it works for casual use which is what I wanted.
- Singapore
Tired of going to the store to NOT find the correct size of shoe in the type I wanted. This shoe was exactly what I was looking for - and I got it in 2 days!!
- Singapore
Husband has a wide foot with a high instep. This is the only shoe that fits him comfortably. Have purchased this shoe multiple times. Good price and well made. Will definitely purchase again.
- Liberia
I've worn Nike Air Monarch IV for years because they are so comfortable. These are excellent cross training shoes and have been ideal for my needs. It's not always easy to find them in my size, but had them at a great price!
- Singapore
2024-01-12 08:57:25--
Very good Bluetooth headset, small and delicate, excellent music quality, no noise. The music is played very loud and will not leak. Logistics is also very fast,
2024-01-12 08:55:13--
The earphones are particularly good, very comfortable to wear, and have excellent sound quality. They are worth buying. The earphones are used as soon as they are received. They are light and comfortable to wear on the ears,
2024-01-12 08:52:29--
The Nike from outside are takeoffs. Otherwise, all good.
2024-01-12 08:51:06--
You can definitely tell shoes are dupes I received them already flawed all they could say is they will refund me $6
2024-01-12 08:47:10--
Brilliant trainers, perfect copy
2024-01-12 08:46:19--
Love the shoes! Fast shipping honest seller !!!
2024-01-12 08:46:16--
Greatness at its finest . I love the quality
2024-01-12 08:46:13--
They bought them full black and they arrived purple
2024-01-12 08:45:51--
took 2 months but im happy with the quality. Thank you!
2024-01-04 19:04:23--
thank you to the seller for prompt delivery of the goods. train with a trailer is very cute and quality.
2024-01-04 19:02:37--
Couldn’t be happier. Size is dead on and shoes feel great. Would order again!!
2024-01-04 19:02:10--
This seller is very polite, answers quickly. My shoes arrived in less than a week. The product is like the real one I could not believe what a good job they have done. go for this seller
2024-01-04 18:57:27--
Never came
2024-01-04 18:56:12--
Not good quality
2024-01-04 18:55:10--
Shoes are clean and decent. I’m happy with them. However, didn’t realize they don’t come with any box 👎🏽👎🏽👎🏽
2024-01-04 18:52:28--
Received to US in 13 days. Shoes fit really well compared to another seller I purchased from. Has a few dents but can find a way to get them out, not surprised since coming from China. Looks genuine
2024-01-04 18:52:09--
All is well except for the sizes of a couple pairs of shoes and one men pair were sent in the wrong color. Thanks
2024-01-04 18:52:00--
great shoes
2024-01-04 18:50:40--
Very good recommended
2024-01-04 18:49:26--
Fit good just a strong smell of glue
2024-01-04 18:49:22--
Perfect shoe authentic will buy more
2024-01-04 18:48:18--
I love that these shoes were shipped very quickly .
2024-01-04 18:48:05--
Nice beautiful look expensive the real deal !
2024-01-04 18:47:53--
My daughter loves them thank you for the fast shipping.
2024-01-04 18:47:19--
Great shoe! The experience was great and hassle free!
2024-01-04 18:45:13--
My husband loves these, has the same pair already but they are worn out, Bought as a Christmas gift for him.
2024-01-04 18:42:43--
I did not put or photo, because it is identical to the photo and identical to the original [I have the original mineral Blu and Sulfur) can buy without fear!
2024-01-04 18:42:30--
Not what I was expecting
2024-01-04 18:41:46--
Pretty good could be better
2024-01-04 18:41:07--
Great product!! Comfy
2024-01-04 18:41:06--
Very good quality
2024-01-04 18:40:52--
they look amazing! took a while to get here, but was totally worth it. will be buying from this seller again!
2024-01-04 18:39:07--
excellent love this shoes
2024-01-04 18:38:55--
they are great. thank you!!
2024-01-04 18:38:41--
Very good, very satisfied!
2024-01-04 18:33:41--
They are great. Looks identical to the real thing. But the sizing is off. I ordered a size 7 in women’s and it first like an 8.5 ish. So size down some. But my husbands pair I got him fit him great.
2024-01-04 18:33:11--
It was very good! Very satisfied!They’re legit.
2024-01-04 18:33:01--
Couldn’t be more happy with these .. absolutely perfect .. only took a couple of weeks to arrive
2024-01-04 09:21:45--
Sunglasses are really stylish, simple and atmospheric, and the quality is particularly good.
2024-01-04 09:20:54--
Very very beautiful fit is comfortable and look authentic,love my purchase, I recommend getting theses sandals .delivery took a while but was worth it,thanks seller.
2024-01-04 09:18:55--
Amazing quality!
2024-01-04 09:17:52--
The customer was very satisfied with this product.
2024-01-04 09:15:27--
Very good article, really well done 👍🏼
2024-01-04 09:14:20--
Looks pretty good but definitely size up
2024-01-04 09:13:52--
They are ok not what I expected the Jordan man a little off
2024-01-04 09:13:13--
The Jordan logo that goes across is kinda sketchy but overall great look
2024-01-04 09:13:09--
The shoes came as described. My daughter is satisfied. I will order from this seller again.
2024-01-04 09:10:40--
Track stop working after as few days but package arrived as if someone hand delivered from China😂💪🏾 Box was beat or nothing! A few minor flaws,the stitching around the laces are a bit sketchy 👀🧐. Thnx for the socks
2024-01-04 09:08:51--
This bag feels super cute and luxurious. The chain is lightweight. The delivery took half a month. Compared to reality, it is 99% identical. The quality is also very good, I bought another one
2024-01-04 09:06:43--
Shipping was very fast. The engraving on the chain is very good, the actual clover is acetate plastic and looks a bit off up close but overall the bracelet is very beautiful. Really liked it.
2024-01-04 09:06:08--
Beautiful just like the picture
2024-01-04 09:04:42--
Love it! Came quickly and packaged very well
2024-01-04 09:02:51--
I like it, and I am very satisfied with it. This product is like what the store describes. It is very good, a warm shopping experience, and the store's service attitude is very good, The logistics speed is also very fast! Praise
2024-01-04 09:02:25--
Ordered these again and once again disappointed lol first one broke from trying to change the ear tips and connection issues now these ones don’t want to connect with both ears .. one ear connects but the other doesn’t. Waste of now almost 70 dollars and bought one for my gf so I’m now waiting on that one to stop working . Jokes
2024-01-04 09:01:23--
Works well, clear audio. Hopefully it lasts.
2024-01-04 09:00:56--
A very high-value earphone with exquisite workmanship
2024-01-04 08:59:19--
Easy to use, sound insulation effect can also be carried on the ear without pain
2024-01-04 08:58:59--
The sound quality is also very good, and the noise reduction effect is also very good.
2024-01-04 08:58:39--
Headphones are easy to use, sound quality is good, texture is good, and battery life is long.
2024-01-04 08:58:25--
Headphones have good sound quality, clear sound, long battery life, fast response and no jamming.
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